[A version of this article first appeared as a post on my blog From the Front of the Choir]
How many times have you been standing next to someone in your choir section and realised that they’re singing something different from you?
Are you wrong, or it it them? Actually, it (usually) doesn’t matter!
It’s inevitable that when you learn a new song, you won’t get it exactly right the first time. Some singers pick things up more quickly than others so there will be times when not everyone is singing the same thing. Slowly everyone becomes more accurate until pretty much the whole choir is singing the same thing.
We don’t like the uncomfortable place where we’re not quite sure of what we’re doing and not knowing whether it’s us or others who are getting it ‘wrong’. I’ve written about this before in The importance of being confused. It’s a necessary stage to go through and can be very productive.
A choir shouldn’t be like being back at school. Yes, we take the work seriously, but it can be done in a fun and light-hearted way. Some people react very strongly when they think they (or others) are singing the wrong note. They feel awful and that they might be punished or singled out. That won’t happen in any decent choir.
Some people end up giving themselves a really hard time because they expect to be perfect from the very start and never make mistakes. Get a perspective: it’s only a song. Singing a wrong note is not the end of the world.
It’s not all about you. You may think that everyone in the choir (or audience) notices your wrong note. You believe that the whole song depends on just you hitting the right note. But actually you’re a very small part of the machine.
For any choir over about 30 singers, the occasional wrong note won’t be noticed by anybody outside – not the audience, not your choir leader and not the other singers. Choral singing is a team game and there is safety in numbers. Although every singer is important (see You are the most important singer in your choir), having many people singing together means that the overall impression is the most important thing, not any individual singer or note.
If someone else in your section sings a wrong note, it’s almost certain that people listening to the choir won’t notice. It’s not your job to point out to the singer that they’ve sung a wrong note (see Don’t try to help your fellow singers – it’s not your job!).
Neither is it your place to point it out to your choir leader. It amounts to tittle tattle and running to teacher. Focus on your own job. Take responsibility for your own singing and do the best that you can. Don’t tell tales.
Choral music is made by human beings who are not perfect creatures. It is impossible to ever sing a song perfectly (whatever that means). In fact, it’s the small and subtle differences between each singer in a choir which give the overall sound its richness and texture.
So stop aiming for perfection and enjoy the music that you are creating together (see Music lives in flawed humans and not on the page and We are not here to serve the music). Learn to love the occasional wrong note.
In some circumstances, singing the wrong note is just not on.
So next time you find that you’re singing something different from the person standing next to you, think carefully about your reaction and don’t jump to conclusions!
Singing out of tune isn’t always a bad thing
Dealing with individual singers in a large choir
In praise of imperfection in art
There’s always one! – coping with different singing abilities in a small group
How to be a good choir member
Chris Rowbury
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